Leadership Sample

Getting married is a different concept from being married. I have remained married through a barrage of challenging scenarios such as miscarriages, IVF, infidelity, lack of communication, etc. Many of my friends struggled in their marriages, and it is often a topic of conversation when we get together. Today, marriage has evolved into lavish festivities and engagements celebrating the union to the world. Now more than ever, many apps and websites are dedicated to helping you plan your wedding day, honeymoon, and even the gatherings surrounding your special day. Still, with all the planning and effort we put into the wedding day, we rarely put as much concerted effort into planning what happens after. What plans have you made for the rest of your lives together?

 

The core of any lasting relationship lies in the heart. And this goes beyond the feelings of love and care. Your beliefs, goals, and vision for yourself are also centered here. This is where you, as a couple, must agree to create an understanding that has more value for your union. After another phone call with a close friend about her marriage, I remember being in my office thinking, “Wouldn’t it be nice if I could solve marriage problems in a similar manner that I solve business issues?” I thought if I could guide my married friends back to their purpose, mission, and vision, that would be awesome! I quickly envisioned telling my girlfriend during her next call for advice that she would vent about some outrageous thing her husband had done, and I would respond, “Let’s reflect on the core values of this union.”  

 

I hope you are laughing at the thought by now, and that you find yourself intrigued enough to explore a concept like this a bit more. Compare successful businesses to successful marriages. It will take resiliency and commitment to sustain ’til death do us part.’ There isn’t a magical remedy, and you do not have to go through it blindly, hoping your marriage falls into the 50% that survive. After 26 years of working with business owners and 21 years of marriage, I have created the blueprint that I believe will SAVE marriages. Like a business, marriage is a contractual union where one seeks to receive a tangible asset.  

 

The gift in the business approach to your marriage is lovingly supporting each other. To fulfill your legacy in a manner in which you know, you are unstoppable because you are on a mission with someone beside you to ensure you succeed. This book will help you realize your vision, be purposeful about your mission, be guided by your values, and be strategic about accomplishing goals. You will have the tools to be a helpmate for your spouse on this marriage journey. You both will realize how invaluable your role is in others’ lives and that ultimately fulfilling their role happens because your partnership exists. You will learn how to lovingly hold each other accountable through monthly check-ins and to ensure your partner is a helpmate, not dead weight. After all, wasn’t the purpose of marriage to give and receive something?  

 

I am reminded of the familiar quote of Benjamin Franklin, “To fail to plan, is to plan to fail.” Your marriage can and should be the most powerful asset you have! Through this partnership, you should be able to utilize and sharpen your gifts and talents to make you, your family, and this world better. This book is better than a business plan; it is a marriage plan. It will help you understand how to realize your vision, be purposeful about your mission, guide your values, and be strategic about accomplishing goals. Read this book with your partner. It will be the first step to having a healthy and HAPPY marriage!